The Real Cost of Getting Engaged in the UK: A Bespoke Jeweller’s Guide
A modern guide to budgeting for your proposal, ring, and celebration, without losing the magic.
Over the past thirty years, I’ve helped thousands of men design the perfect engagement ring.
Confident men, nervous men, overthinkers and last-minute decision-makers — I’ve worked with them all. No matter the personality or the pressure, each man shared the same goal: to create a meaningful moment their partner would never forget.
Getting engaged is one of life’s most joyful milestones. But alongside the romance and excitement come a few practical questions: Where should I propose? When? How much should I spend?
At CS Bespoke, we’re here to help you with all of that, especially the what and the how much.
From choosing the right engagement ring to planning the proposal and even hosting the engagement party, the cost of getting engaged can vary widely. But it doesn’t have to derail your plans, or your finances.
This is your chance to do something thoughtful, beautiful, and intentional. So let’s break down the true costs, offer some helpful perspective, and make sure every penny you spend is packed with meaning.
The Cost of the Ring: Finding the Right Balance
Let’s start with the biggest question I get asked: how much should I spend on the engagement ring?
There’s no one-size-fits-all answer. The “three-month salary” rule you may have heard? Outdated and unrealistic for many. The right budget is the one that works for you.
What matters most is meaning, not metrics.
At CS Bespoke, I work with clients to ensure your budget works as hard as it can. We talk about what matters to you - diamond or coloured gemstone, classic or contemporary, yellow gold or platinum - and then I design around that. It’s why so many of my clients walk away with a ring that feels utterly personal, not plucked from a shelf.
A few things to consider:
Diamond or Gemstone Quality: The “Four Cs” (carat, cut, clarity, colour) play a major role in cost, but there are beautiful options in every range.
Metal Choice: Yellow gold, white gold, and platinum all have different price points and properties.
Design Complexity: A bespoke design can be tailored to maximise beauty and sentiment, without overextending your budget.
Your ring should reflect your love story, not your stress levels.
To view some of our recent engagement ring designs click here.
The Cost of the Proposal: Making It Memorable (Not Monumental)
Proposals don’t need to be flashy or extravagant, they need to be thoughtful, heartfelt, and real.
That said, many men want to mark the moment with something a little special: a weekend getaway, a photographer to capture her reaction, a private dinner with her favourite dish. It’s all possible, and it doesn’t have to break the bank.
Here’s what many of my clients budget for:
Proposal Photographer: £200–£500 for professional images of the big moment.
Weekend Away: £300–£1,000+ depending on destination and style.
Keepsake Touches: Think handwritten letters, flowers, or a bottle of champagne, small touches, big impact.
What matters is authenticity. A simple proposal in your living room, planned with love, will always be more powerful than a flashy gesture done without heart.
The Cost of the Engagement Party: A Joyful Celebration
Once she says yes (and hopefully she will!), many couples choose to celebrate with friends and family.
Like proposals, engagement parties come in all shapes and sizes, from casual pub gatherings to private dining rooms and marquee garden parties. It all depends on your style and budget.
Things to factor in:
Number of Guests: A more intimate group can allow for higher quality touches (better food, drinks, or venue).
Venue Hire: Many clients opt for home celebrations or cost-effective venues like local restaurants.
Drinks & Food: Whether it’s a champagne toast or a full meal, plan with both budget and atmosphere in mind.
It’s not about impressing people, it’s about celebrating with them.
A Final Thought from Me
Getting engaged is more than just a proposal and a ring. It’s the beginning of something big. And the way you approach it sets the tone for everything to come.
If you’re feeling unsure about the costs or overwhelmed by decisions, I’m here to help.
I’ve worked with thousands of men over the years - every personality, every scenario - and I’ve helped each of them create a moment that felt true, confident, and unforgettable.
If you'd like a discreet, no-pressure chat about where to start (or what your ideal ring might look like), I’d be honoured to help.
Christopher Stoner
Founder, CS Bespoke
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Let’s talk about your vision, your partner, and the piece of jewellery that will mark this life-changing moment.
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